Author: Chien Liu

Talking to children about race and diversityis one of the conversations many parentsmost want to have — and most feel leastequipped for. The instinct to protectchildren from the reality of racism,or to hope that colorblindness is theright approach, is understandable.The research consistently finds thatneither protection nor colorblindnessserves children well. This article covers what the researchshows…

Childhood trauma is one of the mostimportant and most misunderstood conceptsin child development. The word “trauma”is sometimes used so broadly that itloses meaning — applied to every difficultexperience a child has. And sometimesit is used so narrowly that genuinelytraumatic experiences go unrecognizedand unsupported. The research on childhood trauma isspecific, important, and directly relevantto parents who…

Child-led play is one of the mostevidence-backed concepts in earlychildhood development — and oneof the most counterintuitive forparents who feel they should beteaching, guiding, and structuringtheir child’s play to make itas educational as possible. The research on child-led playtells a compelling story aboutwhat children actually learn whenadults step back, follow theirlead, and let them direct…

Setting boundaries with children is oneof the most discussed and most misunderstoodaspects of parenting. The word “boundaries”appears constantly in parenting conversations —but it is used to mean very different thingsby different people, and the research onwhat actually works is more specific thanmost popular discussions suggest. This article covers what boundaries actuallyare in the context of…

Empathy — the capacity to understandand share another person’s emotionalexperience — is one of the qualitiesmost strongly associated with kindness,strong relationships, moral behavior,and psychological wellbeing acrossthe lifespan. It is also one of thequalities that parents most want fortheir children — and one of the leastunderstood in terms of how it actually develops. The research on…

Introversion is one of the most misunderstoodtraits in childhood. The introverted childwho prefers one friend to a group, whoneeds time alone after school, who hangsback in new situations and takes timeto warm up — is frequently treated asa problem to be fixed rather than aperson to be understood. The research on introversion tells amore accurate…

Values are the internal compass that guidesbehavior when no one is watching — thedeeply held beliefs about what matters,what is right, and how to treat otherpeople that shape every significantdecision a person makes across their lifetime. Most parents want to raise children withstrong values. Few have a clear pictureof how values actually develop — or…

The parent-child bond is the foundationof everything. Research across decadesand across cultures consistently findsthat the quality of the parent-childrelationship is the single strongestpredictor of child outcomes — morepredictive than socioeconomic status,school quality, neighborhood, or anyother environmental factor studied. This article covers what the researchshows about what builds a strongparent-child bond, what gets in the way,and…

Positive parenting is one of the mostwidely used terms in contemporary parentingculture — and one of the most variablydefined. To some parents it means praisingchildren frequently. To others it meansnever saying no. To others still it isa specific evidence-based approach witha clear definition and a strong research base. The research on positive parenting ismore specific…

Emotional regulation is one of the mostimportant capacities in child development —and one of the most frequently misunderstoodby parents who confuse it with emotionalsuppression. A child who is emotionallyregulated is not a child who never feelsdifficult emotions. They are a child whocan experience difficult emotions withoutbeing overwhelmed by them — who can feelangry without hitting,…